I don’t know if you are anything like me, but sometimes it is imtimdating being surrounded by so many girl bosses. You know, like the woman who are killing the career game, the family game, and overall life game. You see them at your job, at church, your friend circle, and all over social media. Some days I’m inspired by them and it makes me want to work harder, but some days it just reminds me of all my shortcomings, how far away I am from my goals and it just leaves me feeling jealous.
Maybe for you you’re comparing yourself to a woman with a killer bod and you’ve been working out and eating right for a while now, but the results just aren’t there. Maybe you’re looking at all your friends graduate and accept job offers from big name companies, and you still don’t have everything figured out yet. For me, its my blog. I’ve had it for two years and I feel like I am ready to “move to the next level.” A.K.A purchase my own domain, self-host, post content more often, and have stellar images. All of this is good and gravy, but in this day and age where everyone seems to have a blog, it can be overwhelming trying to figure out how to stand out. It is so easy to get caught up in admiring other people’s success, and trying to figure out how they got there, that you end up looking just like them. I don’t want to do something just because everyone else is, I want people to look at everything I do and think “yep, that’s definitely Alysse.” So I have to ask myself, am I doing this and pressuring myself about it because I want to, or because I everyone else is doing it? Honestly, in a world full of girl bosses, sometimes I feel like a fraud.
So now what? Do I stop thinking of fun content to write? Do I stop paying attention to the aesthetic appeal of my instagram feed? Do you stop working hard in the gym? Or whatever aspect of life it is for you?
No. I’m not going to stop putting work toward my blog, and you shouldn’t stop trying to reach your goals just because you haven’t reached them yet. If you are truly enjoying what you are doing, then don’t stop! We are all a work in progress. The quote: “comparison is the thief of joy” is incredibly true. You do you, as authentically as you can, and success will find you. And hopefully it will be a genuine reflection of you, instead of a carbon copy of someone else.
This also relates the the theory of Shine Theory that I talk about so often here. If there are impressive women around me then instead of looking at them as competition, I should see them as an ally, as someone who makes me look good for simply being in the same community as them.