Yeah, long distance relationships are tough at times, but oh so worth it. Today I want to share what I’ve learned since being in a LDR, as well as take this as an opportunity to share what I’ve learned from other women with long distance relationship experience.
In preparing for this post, I reached out to gather some other people’s experience with LDRs. Reaching out really reminded me that while couples in LDRs have similar “issues,” they are not all alike. The women I gathered quotes from below are in all kinds of long-distance relationships. Some are long distance because of their spouse’s military service. Others are separated by an ocean where one partner doesn’t have internet access. One could only receive one email a week from her partner and another is navigating the world of citizenship to officially close the distance for good.
The LDR label may illustrate a common experience, but when you look deeper everyone has their own story. So if you’re reading this today, and you’re in an LDR, know that ultimately, you have to know your partner and what works for some couples may not be ideal for you too.
There are a few more days until the new year and while I know not everyone is into the whole new year’s resolution and “new year new me” stuff, it doesn’t hurt to make new goals at a natural beginning, as long as that is not the only time you’re setting goals.
This meal prep post was requested, and then confirmed in a recent Instagram poll (i’ve been loving those lately) so I’m excited to share how I’ve been selecting my meals, grocery shopping, meal prepping etc!
First a little background. Due to my schedule, I pack all three meals with me when I leave the house in the morning, which meals I eat all my meals out of tupperware. Yay. I’ve also found that if I’m not looking forward to my meals the day is infinitely less fun….and there is a higher chance that I end up at the drive through of the McDonalds across the street from my night classes. In addition, ya girl is living on a budget so meal prepping is also cost effective! Last thing, Sundays are when I grocery shop and cook two different meals for the week. The two meals allow me to alternate throughout the week and sometimes I’ll throw in a frozen meal to change it up. It does get a little repetitive but I’m okay with it.
This past summer I moved for the 4th time in my life. I am no stranger to the process of making new friends, starting somewhere new, and having to find a new church. In undergrad, I spent an entire year and a half trying out different churches, and while I loved the one I ended up going to, I wish I could have been more involved and that I could have been there longer. With my move to D.C I knew I wanted to get a jumpstart on the process of finding a church home.
Searching for a church in D.C can be a little overwhelming. Basically, there is a church on every street corner, and many more “undercover” ones housed in places like schools, movie theaters, and even clubs. So when I was looking for somewhere to start I first visited places recommended to me by friends, then I just started googling. Mark Batterson, the author of the amazing book, The Circle Maker, has his church here, so I visited there. Hillsong has sister churches, so I visited the two of those. All in all I think I visited six (maybe seven) different churches.
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It’s been far too long since I’ve posted something new, so I thought I’d finally tell you why. For a second there, I thought about doing a Day in the Life vlog to make this a little more fun, but the problem with that is time.
If you follow me on any other social media, you may know that I am currently a 4th and 5th grade resident teacher during the day and taking 15 credits for grad school at night. You see…I don’t have a lot of time.
I’m here to bring you another product review. I want to start off by saying that I think all of these products are priced well and can easily be found online or in stores at CVS Pharmacy or Ulta. It has been a few months since I’ve tried out some new products that aren’t for your hair, so I was really excited about these, especially because the entire brand was entirely new to me.
My initial impression is that the brand and the products are very innovative and affordable. When I first received the items I was intrigued by the different ingredients used, and the variety of products for individual needs (minimize pores, retouch finish, plumping). On the other hand, I like to keep a lot of my face products “natural” or at least with ingredients I am familiar with and I can’t exactly say that about these products.
I feel like I have been waiting to write this post for forever now, but I truly care about taking the time to test drive new products out before I write a full review on them. I have been working with Influenster and Deva Curl for a while now, and have been blessed with the opportunity to be a brand ambassador for Deva Curl. A few weeks ago, I was sent a complimentary box of two of their newest products, the Deep Sea Repair & Strengthening Mask (8oz. $36) and Melt into Moisture Matcha Conditioning Mask (8oz. $36). If you’re new to Lysse on Life and are interested in some of my previous Deva Curl Product reviews you can look here and here!
Over the past two the three months my curls have been driving me crazy! All of a sudden it seems like my curls get tangled and matted so quickly, and overall my hair lacks the healthy bounce and shine it once had. I know I should have been doing this all along, but for the first time since I’ve been ~12 I have been wrapping my hair at night. I desperate for a solution and these new Deva Curl masks literally showed up on my door step just in time.
Home. That is a complicated concept for me. I’ve lived in quite a few states/cities and home can be defined many ways. Home is where I had some of my more formative years during high school (Texas). Home is where my mom is (Virginia). Home is the last placed I lived (Charlottesville). In Virginia, home for me is Charlottesville. I moved to Virginia right after graduating high school and after a quick summer spent at my mom’s new house I was off to The University of Virginia for undergrad.
I made it a goal when I first got to grounds that I was going to engage with the actual Charlottesville community. Not to be confused with the UVA community. I volunteered in various public schools. Went to church, babysat, played recreational sports with people who had zero connection to the University. In addition, a lot of the classes I chose to take required us to go out into the community. Learn about the different neighborhoods, the history that happened in them, and how the city has changed due to that history. Events like Vinegar Hill, and Massive Resistance are two historical events that come to mind. To me, it was incredibly important to understand the space I was living in. And I wanted to try to understand it from the perspective of those native to the city, not from the perspective of those from the “Master’s House” like some of the native Charlottesville residents refer to the University as.
I have been living in my new place in D.C for a little over two weeks now. The first week I had five storage bins, my work clothes, and bins of beauty products that I had with me in the dorm. Last weekend I returned to my mother’s house to pack up my high school bedroom set that would soon become my adult bedroom set. And this weekend I have pretty much finished unpacking all my boxes and finding a new home for all my knick-knacks. Unfortunately, due to the height of staircase ceiling, my box spring could not complete the journey to my new room, and thanks to the inconsistency of Walmart, the foldable box spring I ordered has also not made it here yet. So yay for week two of sleeping with my mattress on the floor!
Despite my mattress being on the floor, I am feeling more and more settled each day. With all my boxes unpacked, I have began thinking and pinteresting about how I want to decorate my new space. Yesterday I bought two new plants that have made me ridiculously giddy, I’ve been on the hunt for a new white or off-white comforter, and I would love a rug as well.
In my room in Charlottesville, I had a corner of my room that was a gallery wall of such with picture prints of my friends from Texas, college friends, the boy and I, and Christmas cards from the families I babysat for. While I loved it in my previous room, I’m looking to use picture prints in a different way this time around.
So i’m living the adult life now. For real this time. While i’m making more money that I ever had before, in reality, I’m living on a very small stipend this year…like i’m eligible for food stamps. With the cost of living here in Washington D.C. budgeting and knowing where my money goes is at the utmost importance. Before the move I was doing a good job of recording my expenses by hand in my bullet journal, but now I need something more automated and sophisticated. I’ve been doing research on some of the best money management apps, and utilizing my new DC library card to check out books all about money, so here is a quick list of the resources i’m using to track my spending and learn more about the financial world.